I Am Enough!

I am still learning this!

I have goals for my life and I am still a work in progress.
I am making peace with the fact that I can be strong and a wok in progress at the same time.
There is no such thing as perfect and I will never get to a place where I feel like I've arrived. I don't think that perfection is a destination. My goal is to be happy, whole and flourishing in my life. This goal that I am trying to achieve is not a place or destination but it is a lifestyle.

I am trying to achieve total wellness and freedom in my life.
I am enough with all of my flaws!
I am enough with my flawed past!
I am enough with my unique skill sets!

There is enough room for everyone in this world!!!

That Toxic Relationship Is Gone! Now What?

My last blog I spoke about the first step of achieving self love. 

The most important first step of letting go of toxic relationship. 

Toxic relationships are a hindrance to self growth.

Also a strong support system is key to self love and self discovery. 

SELF DISCOVERY!!!!

Self discovery and self growth can happen flourish when we are being kind to ourselves.

Yes!!!!  Kindness matters!

I found that I began to be kind to myself I started to thrive in my life. Nothing happens over night, it takes real work to grow and thrive. I spend so much time trying to be seen and validated by others, that quest only lead me to a dead end. I only began to thrive in my life when I started to be kind to myself and validate myself. I needed to love myself and I could not depend on anyone else to do that. My toxic mindset is something that only I can change, it is my responsibility to treat myself well. I am still on a journey of self discovery and self growth, I am banking on myself because I am worth it. 

DON'T UNDERRATE THE POWER OF SELF LOVE!

Self-Love is oh so powerful!!!

On my healing path and in my evolution of growth I have seen how self love changed my life.


I was in such a broken place before I started my healing journey. My self-esteem and my overall self worth was very low. The truth is I did not love myself, wow! I can't believe I said that out loud. It's the raw and honest truth. The trauma that I experienced in my childhood had taught me that I wasn't worth much. sadly, I believed that I was unloved and not worthy of being loved.  As a result of this I allowed people to treat me badly. I was already a hurt person and over the years I discovered that people would continue to hurt me. I couldn't not understand why this was happening to me.


        💡💡A LIGHT BULB WENT ON💡💡


The journey to self love isn't as easy as turning a light bulb on but for me it was a light bulb moment. I had to learn to love me flaws and all. After fighting against insecurities and pass hurts I finally decided to give myself a chance. I felt exhausted from toiling with my hurts, it was time for a change. I had to release myself from toxic relationships and toxic people. It was not as easy as that, especially when some of the toxic people are family members. Some of those toxic people did not take kindly to me distancing myself from them. Toxic people don't want you to get out of their presence, they want to be close to you so that they can influence your life. You will know exactly who they are, once you start to achieve self-love in your life, that toxic person will be the person telling you this: "you have changed, you don't hang out with me anymore" letting go of toxic relationships is the first step to self love.


               A CHANGE HAS COME

It was and still is hard to let go of my old way of thinking, but I chose to embrace who I am with all my flaws. I love me! I see that when I began to love on myself, people also began to treat me with respect. The way I treat myself is a clear and unspoken boundary of how I expect others to treat me. The power of self love should not be underrated. When you are radiating confidence and self love people will follow your example. Although, there is no guarantee that everyone will like me, I know my self worth and I won't allow toxic people to influence how I feel about myself. Wishing you good health and happiness always.

                                                                   Cassie 

I Finally Admit It!!!!!

I admit that I struggle with anxiety!

There, I admit it!!!

This is my first time ever saying this publicly that I struggle with anxiety.

Yes, I feel anxious about the simplest things. Going to the store, doctor appointment, PTA meeting, 

public speaking etc... Whatever it is I feel anxious about actually doing it.

Anxiety also make me feel unmotivated to do certain things. What it all boils down to is feeling fearful of doing the activity, and having to go through the elevated symptoms of anxiety. In the past I used avoidance as a coping mechanism, because lets face it who wants to feel anxious. I've gotten to the point in my life where avoidance no longer serves me. I have a desire to grow and that means being a little uncomfortable. 

CAUTION  BEING UNCOMFORTABLE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE!!! 

We are all at different Phases in our lives and that is alright!

Walk your own path!

Whatever works for you is for you, I am just speaking about where I am today in my life.

I like to push myself because I don't want to get stuck in my fears. 

I am an introvert and I also have anxiety, so I have to push myself extra hard to get going.

It is not easy and I do have to do my breathing exercises, self affirmation and prayer. Whatever I have to do to get going that is what I do. 

I hate feeling stuck!!!!!!!!!!

Feeling stuck is not for me, I still feel anxious doing a lot of things but I do it anyway.

I hate for anxiety to feel like it has a hold on me. 

My journey continues and I will continue to do what anxiety tells me I cannot do.