Say No To Complaining And Yes To Peace

 As always I speak from my own experiences, 

Now, let me clear a few things up before I start, 

Venting is a part of healing in a healthy way, talking to trusted friends, family or therapist are healthy ways 

of expressing ones feelings and healing. When I say complaining I am talking about being on a unhealthy 

rant that is spiraling and going no where. Now, that I've cleared that up let me continue. 

I know something about being on a never ending rant train going no where. I was going through a lot of 

unhappiness in my life, I felt like I was being beat up by life. I complained and complained to no end and it 

only made me feel worse. Dare I say, I felt like a professional complainer, this type of unhealthy 

communication will increase sadness. I don't know about you but more sadness is the last thing I need in my 

life. It was time to give peace a chance, as a person of faith, I had to remind myself that peace is always the 

answer. I may not have everything figured out, and the truth is I will never have everything figured out. 

I am resting in God's peace because the victory has already been won. I wrote a book called Victory 

Cometh and named my business the same. That was the word that I received in my spirit some years ago. 

Today, God is showing me that victory is not coming because, victory is already here. All I have to do is 

receive and realize that I already have the victory. Even though, I can't see it yet, doesn't mean that I don't 

have it. This is where faith comes into to play, I receive my victory by faith. Keeping the peace puts me in a 

position of power. 

No more complaining, ranting and raving. I can change the things that I can and I allow God to do the rest. 

I hope this has been helpful to someone that may feel like life is beating then down. Even if you do not 

subscribe to a spiritual or religious view, peace is still worth a chance. Being a professional complainer will 

only create more sadness in your life. Rest in peace and trust the process, you will be happier and healthier. 

Wishing you good health and happiness.

Cassie 

Do You Run And Hide When Things Get Tough!?

 Well, let me be honest.

Lately, I have been going through some really tough things, which is the reason I have not written a blog entry in a while. When this situation occurred my first instinct was to run, hide and protect myself. I wanted to withdraw and hide from everything and everyone. This was my way of protecting myself, but I recently learned that by doing this I am giving the situation way too much power than it deserves. Some situation calls for reasonable solitude at times, by sometimes solitude is not the best remedy depending on the situation. I even went as far as to delete all of my social media apps for two weeks, it would have been longer until my spouse talked me out of it. Some situations you have to stand up to. This was one of those situations that I needed to stand up in my God given strength and refuse to back down. With this particular situation I really needed the help and support from others.  

After two weeks off of social media, I am back and I am standing up to this situation. I also reached out to my church community to get the additional support that I needed. Knowing when to ask for help is strength. I am seeing this situation through, and I am not backing down. I will press forward until there is a resolution to this matter. 

Your Season Of Change Is Coming

 Things may seem like it's happening slowly, but I believe that it is actually coming together. Sometimes the wait is long but in time it will pay off. Being patient and kind to ourselves in the season of transition is the best option. Trouble or difficulty is not permanent, there is a season of transition that is coming. Letting go of worry, living in the present and making the best of what we have today. There will be a time that we will transition into a better season. A better season is coming, if we will enjoy the wait, be patient with ourselves and keep giving life our best.

Practicing Gratitude

 

There is research that shows practicing gratitude can help soothe sadness and depression. Often times we are worried about pass events or we are worried about the future. This is what worrying does, it make everything look scary. Understandably there are scary things in life, but on the contrary there are good things happening also. The idea of practicing gratitude is to help focus on the positive things in life, instead  of only on all of the difficult things. A daily inventory of what we are thankful for helps to keep thing in perspective. Life is not perfect, but there are somethings we can be thankful for. 

Get Back Up Again!

 I am sure that we have all heard the saying, if you fall, dust yourself off and get back up again. 

Indeed, that is something to live by.

Life has an endless train of things happening, some good and some difficult. I have learned that being resilient through it all will help me to push through. No matter what comes my way, I have to keep hoping,  believing and moving. I bet, that right now you are saying that this is better said than done. It sounds good in theory to just dust yourself off and get up again, but things are not that simple. When things get difficult, it is hard to keep a good attitude. For me this is the ultimate challenge, it really takes focus and digging down deep to conjure up strength. 

Learning new tools, to make the journey easier has been helpful. I take things day by day, and each new day brings a chance to experience something new. Everything takes work, and it takes time. I have to be willing to do the work to get where I need to be. Everyday won't be sunny skies but I have to keep moving. As long as I am in motion forward that is progress. 

If We Want To Attract Something Better, We Have to To Stop Repeating The Old Story To Ourselves

My trauma is real!

My pain is real!  

There is no denying these facts.

However, there comes a time when I have to stop repeating the same old story to myself. How can I move on in the spirit of healing if I keep repeating the same story to myself. The answer is I can't move on if I am stuck in the same place hurt. Things won't change overnight, but as long as I am making the conscious decision to work on my struggles, that helps me move forward. Repeating the same old story and expecting a different outcome is not logical at all. These horrible things happened to me but it does not have to take over my life. I had to make peace with the fact that I can't change the past, but I can choose to make the best of the rest of my life. 

If I want to attract something better in my life, I have to stop repeating the same old story to myself. It wasn't fair what happened to me, and it was an injustice. Nothing can be changed, but I have the power to change my future. I am ready to stop telling the same old story and I am ready to embrace a new journey. 

When Respect Is No Longer Served At The Table

 When respect is no longer served at the table it is time to walk away. weather it is a personal relationship or a working relationship respect is a must. We are all human beings deserving of love and respect. We are all individuals that have needs and desires and all of us are entitled to that. No one person should abuse their authority to dictate and manipulate others to do their will. We find that this often happens in many relationships where a person(s) feel powerless, while the other person (s) seek only to fulfill their desires at someone else's expense. 

These are not fruitful relationships, although it may not be easy to walk away, if a individual's mental health and safety is at risk, leaving the situation has to be an option on the table. I have been faced with a few situations that walking away was the best option for me. I am at a point in my life, where I am stronger than I have ever been. The trauma and the disrespect that I have gone through has taught me to not put up with the disrespect. When respect is no longer served at the table that is where I take my leave. I have learned to be assertive by speaking up and advocating for myself. I have been known to be a sensitive, compassionate and soft spoken person. Some may see that as a strength, but there are others who may see that as a way to manipulate. 

While there are some people that appreciate kindness and humility, their are those who pull on the emotional stings of others to use them for their own purposes. I don't want these people to change who I am, at the same time I know that these people exist. Moving forward I will have to exercise more wisdom when it comes to relationships. If people are self serving in my interactions with them, I will know that this is not for me and I will limit my interactions with them. I won't operate in a state of paranoia, because that's no way to live. However, I know what respect and love looks like. When respect is no longer served at the table that's the sign to walk away. We are all deserving of love and respect.

Wishing you good health, wellness and fruitful relationships.

Saying No To Worrying & Embracing Optimism

 I remain optimistic that this year will bring forth good lessons and success. Life is truly what you make it and I am being intentional by expecting something great to happen this year. As I am a woman of faith, there are somethings that I have been praying for and I am expecting to be fruitful. 

I am intentionally releasing any thoughts or things that have caused me to worry, because worry doesn't solve anything. In fact, worry just creates more worry and it also can cause stress and anxiety. I don't have a New Years Resolution, but Instead I am choosing to be optimistic and release the burdens that has been holding me back. 

Here is to releasing burdens, saying no to worry and embracing optimism.