The Time Is Now

The time is now!

I have been putting off some very important things that I want to do for myself. I have been putting it off because it never seemed like a good time. I have been using my kids as a excuse not to care for myself, yes, motherhood is hard and it keeps me busy. However, if I am being honest, it's very easy to use my kids an  excuse for not finding time to take care of my needs. I have allowed a lot of things to fall by the wayside Some that have affected my health and well being. 

The time is now for me to get back on track and be accountable for my choices. Today, I choose to work on my goals without excuses. I may not get it right the first of second time, but I will promise to pick myself up and keep going. 

Is there something that you have been putting off, if so, I hope that you too make time to be kind to yourself. Best wishes! 

You Will Out Grow People Or They Will Catch Up To You

 You will either out grow people or they will catch up to you. Navigating relationships is hard, it can seem  impossible to get through some of the difficulties in a relationship. For me it has been easy to let go of toxic relationships because I value my mental health. Once I got the strength to walk away, I have the outlook that these people will either change their ways to catch up with me or I will out grow them. There is only two things that can happen and neither are bad. I have outgrown many relationships and that's alright. There are a few people that have been inspired to change and catch up with me. 

But, how do we navigate day to day life with our love ones. We can't just go around discarding everyone like used paper towels. Some relationships are worth fighting for, even though there are some differences there. Navigating these relationships are tricky and complicated. We are all wired very differently and it is a tricky 1,2, step dance when trying to get two different people to get on the same page. I really don't know the solution, but I do know talking and listening can help. I also find that when I am going through these difficulties I use the same outlook that they will either catch up with me or we will outgrow each other. I mean this in a much more subtle way than in the case of the toxic relationship. I can't change people, so why even try. I find that when I work on myself, and better myself, my outlook on life changes. A new perspective on life usually come with new experiences, and new relationships. When loved ones see the changes I have made, they may become inspired by it and it will have them wanting to make changes of their own. I think the best way to help my relationships is to work on myself. Counseling is also a great tool, if everyone are on board with that. Until then I will continue to change my world by bettering myself, and not trying to change others. Frankly, seeking to change others is not my job. I believe that my relationships will be were they need to be in due time. We are all responsible for ourselves.  

When A Physical illness Affects Your Mood

 It's true that a physical illness can affect your mood. I am no stranger to this, no matter how big or small the illness is, it has the potential to affect my mood. I have been going through a few small illness one after another, and I can't help but to feel drained. It's a helpless feeling when my body just won't cooperate with me. I am thankful that these illness are only temporary but it does not make it easy. While going through my temporary illnesses, I thought about all of you that might be going through long term illnesses. I have great compassion for what you are going through. 

My heart goes out to those who are going through chronic or long term illness. I know that it's not easy to battle a illness on a daily basis with no ending date in sight. I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through. What helps me to get through the rough times is my faith, when I am feeling hopeless I also like to meditate on positive things to inspire me. I try as hard as I can to keep my mind in a positive place. I know  that having a positive outlook and not giving up can help. Even though your situation may seem rough, there is hope. Wishing you good health and happiness. 

Yay Or Nay To Support Groups?

 I have had the pleasure of not only attending support groups, but I have also started a mental health support group in my community. I have had many positive experiences in a support group setting. The road may seem lonely when I am going through hardships of life. A support group helps me to know that I am not alone. There is always someone that can relate to what I am going through. It's funny how we all think that we are alone when we are facing difficulties, then suddenly we realize that there are others going through the same thing. From my experience attending support groups, the common thread is that there is always someone who is going through the same things. There is comfort in knowing that I am not alone, and when I see others overcome their obstacles it gives me hope. We can be inspired by each others journey and exchange ideas, these are the reasons that I like support groups. 

The mental health support groups that I have attended are private and they value confidentiality. The pandemic has forced us online and we are all meeting virtually. Nonetheless, support groups are still available, for many the challenge has been how to maintain privacy online. There is always the option to turn off cameras or call in if that is available. I also limit what I share, to protect my privacy. Overall, support groups have been a helpful tool to me. What do you think about support groups?