You Can't Heal Other People's Trauma

 Yes, this is a note to myself.

I have my own trauma to work through, other people's trauma is not my responsibility. 

Because I am no stranger to trauma I have a tendency to get way too involved with other people's trauma. 

I wear my heart on my sleeve and that can be a strength as well as a weakness. 

There is a thin line between being supportive and taking on the responsibility of someone else's healing. 

This week, I came to the realization that it is not my responsibility to heal anyone. 

Frankly, I don't have the power to heal anyone. My role is to be supportive and compassionate to others. 

I am not going to fall into the trap of assuming the responsibility of healing someone else. 

My healing is my responsibility and everyone holds the same responsibility for themselves. 

I am at peace with that!

SPRING CLEANING IS NOT JUST FOR THE HOME, IT'S ALSO FOR THE MIND

 Spring is approaching and it's right on time. It is time to shed the darkness and gloominess of the winter. The sun is shinning, the wind is blowing and it is a brand new day. The gloom of the winter is long gone and we can begin to make plans for the spring. 

Spring cleaning is not just for the home, it is also for the mind. This new season is a time to refocus and re-energize. Forget about past failures and look towards new goals and a fresh outlook on life. Remember the lessons of the past and gain strength from it. This season is blowing a new and fresh wind my way. I am going to reach out grab a hold of all that it has to offer. 

Wishing you a wonderful new season. 

SAY NO TO SELF SABOTAGE!

The pursuit of peace is important to me. Seeking peace! Embracing peace! Guarding My peace! Maintaining peace! Not self sabotaging my peace. All of these are important to me. Especially that last one, not self sabotaging my peace. Do you ever feel afarid to be happy? Sometimes it all seem too good to be true, it's like I can't enjoy the moment because I am waiting for the bad news to come. Why can't I just enjoy the moment without self sabotoging myself. It's alright to be happy and live in the moment, I am learning to not only seek, embrace and guard my peace. Maintaining and not self sabotaging my peace is also important. Whatever, it takes to achieve peace in my life that is what I will pursue. I hope that you too will pursue whatever your heart desires in your life. Wishing you good health and hapiness.

I Don't Do Well With The Rush! Rush! Rush!

The rush! rush! rush! life is not for me. I like to do things with care, I was never the type of person that seek to do things in a rush. An emergency is the exception, if I have to hussle in an emergency I will after gathering my thoughts. However, besides that I don't do well when someone is not prepared causing me not to be prepared. I am and well always be a preventative person, that's how my mind is wired. I like to take the proper steps to maintain the quality of something,or my quality of life. I always have a six sense for seeing what preventative measures I need to take to maintain the overall quality. Everyone has their way of doing things and that's great. However, when someone ele's lack of preparedness affects my life, it throws me for a loop. I am not perfect by any means, but I always see the need of what has to be done, and I like to be prepared for it. I don't like to run around at the last hour, having an anxiety attack trying to get things done. Let me give you a visual of how I really feel. I feel like I am being hog-tied and dragged by a car through the busy streets. Sorry, if that was too graphic,but that is how I really feel inside. It's a helpless state of being. When you are in a patnership, you can only do what you can do and then you have to trust that your partner will do their part. Being in a partnership is not easy! Since I can't control what someone else is going to do, I am trying to work on my reaction to it. I am trying not to get to a place of anxiety or a place of anger. Life is filled with unexpected situations, how I react to it will make all the difference. Nothing or no one is worth my peace, I will continue to do my part and trust that things will workout in the end. I also learned that I don't have to make someone else's urgency, be my urgency. Although, I am willing to help, I simply won't let someone's urgency disrupt my day. I seek to have healthy boundries in my life, and this one of them. I am protecting my peace at all cost.