You Will Out Grow People Or They Will Catch Up To You

 You will either out grow people or they will catch up to you. Navigating relationships is hard, it can seem  impossible to get through some of the difficulties in a relationship. For me it has been easy to let go of toxic relationships because I value my mental health. Once I got the strength to walk away, I have the outlook that these people will either change their ways to catch up with me or I will out grow them. There is only two things that can happen and neither are bad. I have outgrown many relationships and that's alright. There are a few people that have been inspired to change and catch up with me. 

But, how do we navigate day to day life with our love ones. We can't just go around discarding everyone like used paper towels. Some relationships are worth fighting for, even though there are some differences there. Navigating these relationships are tricky and complicated. We are all wired very differently and it is a tricky 1,2, step dance when trying to get two different people to get on the same page. I really don't know the solution, but I do know talking and listening can help. I also find that when I am going through these difficulties I use the same outlook that they will either catch up with me or we will outgrow each other. I mean this in a much more subtle way than in the case of the toxic relationship. I can't change people, so why even try. I find that when I work on myself, and better myself, my outlook on life changes. A new perspective on life usually come with new experiences, and new relationships. When loved ones see the changes I have made, they may become inspired by it and it will have them wanting to make changes of their own. I think the best way to help my relationships is to work on myself. Counseling is also a great tool, if everyone are on board with that. Until then I will continue to change my world by bettering myself, and not trying to change others. Frankly, seeking to change others is not my job. I believe that my relationships will be were they need to be in due time. We are all responsible for ourselves.